Sunday, December 31, 2006
Saturday, December 23, 2006
So... I made the mistake of signing up Lucy and myself as Santa's helpers at the Christmas party my agency puts on for our clients. Lucy is terrified of Santa. Santa needed helpers, the other staff had roles and responsibilities. We had to bring gifts to children sitting on Santa's lap. We had almost 4 hours this ... the whole time I was unable to put Lucy down because she was scared. Each time we approached Santa to give a gift, she clung tighter. It was the most I have held her since she discovered crawling and movement. This is not a good study for immersion therapy ... doesn't work.
We finally finalized the adoption this Friday!!!!!!!!!! She's officially mine now and forever. What a wonderful day.
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
Saturday, December 9, 2006
My blog earlier today inspired me to try try try again. After Lucy's nap I said to my cousin, "let's go to the mall and see Santa", she said something about being crazy, but she came along. I got Lucy all dressed up in her Santa viewing outfit and off we went. The mall parking lot was a real mess but we found a spot and headed in ... Straight to Santa's line. It was a medium-long line but we were determined. We waited for lots of minutes, wondering why they were taking so so so long with this one family. First I thought, "how nice, to work with kids so that they are comfy with Santa before snapping the photo" then I started thinking "holy cow, if they take that long with each family, we'll miss Christmas all together". THEN I realized that there were mechanical problems with the photographers lights, and that they weren't going to be fixed any time soon. We decided to go for an early dinner then back to Santa. We ate dinner, Lucy had about 55 meltdowns on the walk from dinner back to Santa. Real live on the floor tantrums. We spotted Santa, and a very short line. My hopes were lifted. We went to the line entrance, where the stupid Elf was placing a sign saying Santa was going on break and would be back in an hour. AN HOUR. Well darn. We left. I was feeling very down about the Santa thing ... then I had an idea. Hope is restored. This coming week, I am going to get Lucy in her cute fluffy, warm Jammies ... head over to the mall where Santa works late and hope that Lucy falls hard asleep. We will then have a peaceful wait in line, and I will take advantage of her ability to sleep anywhere and transfer numerous times without waking ... in my head I see a cute photo of Lucy sleeping in Santa's arms.... I also see Lucy freaking out if she wakes up ... Here's to hoping we have peaceful slumbers. I'll let you know.
Sorry it's been so long since I've offered written word on this here blog ... we have been so very busy. First we had a traumatizing experience with Santa Claus. The whole thing started off as a little annoying because the "Elves" were really obnoxious, and obviously were not in the Christmas spirt. They rushed everyone, were chomping on gum, and very unprofessional. I was trying not to get all grumpy and scrooge like because of the evil elves ... We approached Santa to talk to him and high 5 him while the family ahead of us were being rushed through choosing their photo and their package (which by the way, some random elf already attacked everyone in line asking what package they wanted). Lucy was fine giving santa 5 and he seemed ok, although I could have sworn while we were standing there I heard Santa refer to me as grandma ... I blew that off as something I heard wrong. When the lead elf told us it was our turn I put Lucy on Santa's lap and she immediately started crying. This surprised me as she's been the brave one about every other new adventure in her life up until now ... so I was comforting her and santa says "grandma, you can get in the picture with her if it will help" ... In complete shock I sat by santa, had the photo taken and somehow came up with the complete WRONG photo package, despite the fact that the crazy random elf had written it down on our magic envelope before the trauma happened. GRANDMA????? Really, I could have kicked Santa, but again I was in a lot of shock and Lucy was still a little upset. Last night I got the nerve up to return to a different Santa to try for the good photo ... it was at the Mall of America. We arrived before 4pm on a work day, and to my dismay, the nice elf said "two hour wait" ... Ahhh, I looked at my darling daughter and said "bye bye Christmas". We went shopping.
Lucy is great. She is talking up a storm, and just a riot of energy and humor. She's still 100% adorable. She has her naughty streaks as well, but she sort of announces that this side of her is about to show ... She is growing and growing. She knows that she is adored byt the world.
Thursday, December 7, 2006
Monday, November 20, 2006
Wednesday, November 8, 2006
Tuesday, November 7, 2006
Monday, November 6, 2006
Not to be negative about the beautiful, wonderful Lucy but I need to present a different side of her occasionally (in case you all wonder if I am actually parenting a real child!). I believe my kid might be turning into the class bully. Don't get me wrong, I was secretly pleased when I saw her give a little to the young girl "A" who pushed her off the loft in her first minutes of daycare BUT ... Lucy has taken revenge to a new level by taking it out on any child who wanders into her path. She's pushing the boys around, the 4 and 2yr olds that we babysit ... This morning she shoved the sweet "W" out of her way at the sensory table. Lucy shows no regret. The biting??? Thankfully she hasn't figured out how to chomp hard yet ... but her fake bites are accompanied by a rather realistic and scary growl... this concerns me!
Monday, October 30, 2006
Sunday, October 29, 2006
In the past couple weeks Lucy and I have met several families in person who we previously only "knew" through the CHSFS adoption forum. What fun!!! We met one family who are in the midst of their home study (hope the wait goes fast). We met two families from the forum. We caught up with a couple families we have previously met. What socialites we are! Saturday night was so much fun, surrounded by beautiful Ethiopian babies and toddlers, plus a couple beautiful bio-preschoolers (funny calling them bio-preschoolers). Lucy continues to be overnumbered by little boys in her life, so we were beyond excited to hear that our good friends S, R, H & M are officially starting the process on the adoption of another Ethiopian girl H! I was also able to talk to my friend N who lives out of state, I was so wishing that she was just going to show up at the gathering Saturday night. When she wasn't there I was disappointed! Lucy is still having some symptoms of her cold that never ends. We (Lucy and I, and our clothes) are really really tired of snot.
Monday, October 23, 2006
October 24th … One year. I feel like I can send/post this now because it’s officially tomorrow in Ethiopia. My mind has been on so many things … mostly remembering this time last year. I met Lucy!!! I got on an airplane on the 22nd, arrived in Ethiopia late in the evening on the 23rd and the morning of the 24th I took Lucy into my arms and it was real! I know I became a mother during those months of waiting to travel. I got a scary medical update and could not be soothed. I was desperate to get to her into my arms and hear her breathing. I stared and stared at each of the four photos I received while I was waiting for her. I looked at her eyes, ears, hands, feet, lips … I examined the spit up on her jacket. I was in a word: obsessed. I still am! The morning I met her I was so in another world, I felt a little detached from my emotions. It’s almost like the emotions were so strong that I had to leave them or I wouldn’t have been able to hold her. She was sleeping when I picked her up … minutes later she opened her eyes and her gaze met mine briefly before she fell back to sleep. I stayed there with her in that crowded room, eight babies, a couple nannies, a nurse, Mel and Sara for some time getting trained in on Lucy care before being released to take her upstairs to the guest rooms. From the moment we went upstairs, she was in my care. A year later, she sleeps in her room … soundly (most nights). She’s the same … observant, silly, smart, loving, trusting, wonderful child she was then. She loves home. I love that about her. When she comes in the door to her home she laughs and twirls around and around. She feels safe here. I can’t believe a year has passed, some days it feels like it’s only been moments, and other days it feels like it’s been forever. I look into her eyes at night when she’s falling asleep and I marvel at all she knows, and all the memories she has that I will never know. It’s overwhelming at times, the responsibility I feel for her as her mother, but also as the keeper of her story and the means for her to learn more and know more. I feel compelled to seek for her, I feel like it’s an urgent job … I know I am not alone in this. I feel connected with all the mothers, but especially the momma’s of children adopted from Ethiopia. We know too much about the situations that brought our children to us, we have responsibilities now that no amount of imagination could have prepared us for, we have a weight on our loving, tired shoulders. Lucy is a beautiful child, something about her touches the spirit of people who know her, she connects. She brings joy and peace. Thank you to everyone who has been a part of her story over this past year. Love Stacy and Lucy Eskedar.
Monday, October 16, 2006
Tuesday, October 3, 2006
Monday, October 2, 2006
Sunday, October 1, 2006
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
Well .. Lucy and I have decided to switch her from the loving, nurturing, protective arms of her aunt Barb to a real toddler room at a YWCA daycare ... I am excited and nervous. I think Lucy will thrive being around other kids her age all day ... and I think she'll be happy ... but still I worry... What if the teacher isn't nurturing like Barb is ... what if Lucy doesn't eat or sleep well??? What if she needs a hug? What if she grow up too fast???? The positives about the switch: 1. the daycare is right on my way to work, cutting my day down by almost an hour. 2. lucy will be around other kids (she loves other kids) 3. the teacher speaks in spanish! 4. they provide lunch and diapers and 5. with the scholarship, it's actually cheaper. the worrisome factors: 1. she loves Barb and will miss her 2. will she be super sick all the time now? 3. she'll have cuteness competition 4. it's group care
So I've decided that I need to use these couple weeks to get her primed as a toddler ... trying to use the kindness and gentleness of her auntie to get her to lay down and fall asleep more on her own over nap ... I will implement the use of utensils during our meals together ... I will start usign a non-sippy cup with her practicing and will have to start teaching her some more self-care ... It's toddler boot camp ... we've got some practicing to do!!!!! My baby's off to school.
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Sunday, September 3, 2006
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
OK ... I know that at each stage of my time with Lucy, I have ADORED that particular age ... but I am here to say that 15 months, by far my favorite! She's just prelingual, you know that age, where she knows some words and knows that language exists, she wants desperately to communicate ... she just needs to do so creatively. During those moments when I am 'present focused' I can totally figure out what's going on. Tonight we experienced a little game of charades. First, what does it mean when a baby walks from one end of the room to another, systematically going from one "no" to another? Sounds like "uper moored" ... that's right "super bored" ... she was bored and needed to be engaged in more appropriate activities. How about this ... she's whining, she's falling apart, shes standing at the kitchen gate and shaking it ... looking at my and screaming??? Sounds like "whack" ... YUP, SNACK! Ahhhh usually I head these things off before they happen, tonight, I was tired. I wanted to zone out and my darling daughter was having none of that! She does have another real word "banana" ... clear as a bell, we were at Whole Foods and she says baaaaaaanaaana ... and grunts, and sure enough sitting beside us, a whole lovely table full of bananas, needless to say, the girl got a bunch of bananas! OHHHH and another success, today's lunch and dinner were successfully ate WITHOUT INJERA!!! I didn't tell you that we had a little addiction to injera and pancakes at our house ... all food had to be on injera or be a pancake or it was wholeheartedly refused!
Thursday, August 24, 2006
1. Isaac on a hike
2. Lucy in the swimming hole
3. the three friends
4. camping at dusk
5. we made it through the night!
6. playing trains in the tent
7. pancakes for breakfast
8. Nathan happy
9. Isaac loosing patience with train trak stealer Lucy
10. Nathan swinging
11. Sitting in an Eagles Nest
12. the little Eagle
13. taking a little nap in the nest
14. very mellow
15. Nathan sleephikes
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
I took a couple days off of work and took Lucy camping! I arranged a short trip to a state park and invited a friend and her two children (ages 3 and 2). It was the first tent camping experience for all of the kids. Deb and I were nervous and had fairly low expectations (especially for the sleeping portion). Everything turned out great! Shortly before we got to the state park we stopped for lunch at a restaurant called "Happy's" ... well it lived up to it's name! This place was just this little hole-in-the-wall semi-fast food restaurant but it had an outdoor and indoor play area ... big sand box, swing set, kids picnic table, basketball court WOW! The kids had tons of fun playing and stretching and they even ate a little. We (Deb and I) got our energy mustered for the next step.... thankfully when we arrived at the campground one kid was sleeping (Nathan 2yr), so we were able to get the tent up with only two mobile children to track. Once everyone was awake and alert we went on a short hike. Lucy fell asleep once she was in the carrier. The two boys did well on the hike (aside from one minor melt-down). We then went swimming and back to the campsite. Lucy was in heaven ... she never had to go "inside" she had two other kids to follow around and her mom never left her sight. At bed time, Nathan was practically begging to go down ... and he and Lucy fell quickly to sleep. Isaac stayed up for a smore, and then a fire stick show (put on by me ... the fire bug). He also fell asleep quickly which left Deb and I a few minutes to chat by the fire before we too needed sleep. The night was CHILLY! No bugs ... The kids all slept through the night ... Lucy kept moving her hands so they were on my arms or face. The morning came quickly and we were up again. We had pancakes, hot chocolate, coffee ... we played at the campsite, went to a talk on "predators" and went on another hike ... we then cheated on lunch by going to McDonalds ... after playing at the campsite for a bit longer we packed up and headed home. The experience was positive and I felt like I could really handle the camping with kids thing! Can't wait until the next trip in September. Photos will follow when I get to a faster computer.
Thursday, August 17, 2006
Thursday, August 10, 2006
Lucy had her 15 month well child check yesterday. She's perfect of course! She finally passed the 20# mark (20# 4 oz), which means we are safe to be facing forward. She totally flirted with the doctor, showing off her well-honed social skills. We're all good. Here are some new photos from Tuesday.
Tuesday, August 8, 2006
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
Friday, July 21, 2006
Monday, July 17, 2006
Thursday, July 13, 2006
Monday, July 10, 2006
Friday, July 7, 2006
One year ago on Saturday (July 9)…
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I was sitting in a restaurant with two coworkers, celebrating the fact that 45 minutes earlier I had turned in the last of my paperwork and was now officially waiting for a referral when my phone rang with an unidentified number. It was my social worker, and quite unbelievably she was calling me with a referral. One year ago I raced back to the office to open an e-mail with an attachment. One year ago, up popped the photo of the most beautiful baby girl I had ever seen in my life, my baby girl! My head has been spinning ever since. My life continues to change in the most wonderful and unpredictable ways. It has only been one calendar year, but it might as well be a lifetime. We are celebrating on Saturday by going to the zoo and to a state park for “camping”. Thank you all so much for being a part of this amazing adventure. Stacy
Thursday, July 6, 2006
Don't you love photo updates???? These are actually from Ethiopia, a little glimpse into the past!
1. Lucy (Eskedar) with Tesfaye the very helpful man who worked at the care center. Just found out today that Tesfaye is now engaged!
2. Lucy and Viviane, she went home with her mom and dad the same day Lucy did!
3. Lucy and 4 yr old Tarique, who now lives in New Brighton
4. Lucy in the bjorn on an outing in Addis Ababa
5. Lucy and her favorite nurse.
6. Lucy moments after I first met her
Wednesday, July 5, 2006
Thursday, June 29, 2006
If this link works ... you should be able to view a video montage from when I travelled to get Lucy ... if not, then you'll see nothing, either way you know she's cute!
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
Monday, June 19, 2006
Wednesday, June 14, 2006
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
Monday, June 12, 2006
Friday, June 9, 2006
Finally it's Friday, a few more hours of work and then a nice relaxing weekend with Lucy. Tomorrow morning a group of families are travelling to Ethiopia to meet their children. I can't stop thinking about them and the moment when each of them see and hold their children for the first time.
Tuesday, June 6, 2006
Monday, June 5, 2006
Monday, May 8, 2006
Monday, May 1, 2006
Sunday, April 23, 2006
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Lucy is an outdoors type of girl. I think she is having a blast with all of the new sights and sounds of spring. I know I am loving it. In the next few weeks, Lucy's yard will have evolved from just a regular city yard to a child's wonderland thanks to grandma and grandpa. She will have a city park right outside her back door! Lucy is on the verge of crawling, and is gaining momentum every day. She is still very happy and social. She makes eye contact with someone and gets giddy, especially if that someone is a child. Yesterday we went out for Ethiopian food and she ate SO MUCH! She loves it. We also returned to the Ethiopian food market where our favorite clerk works. He showed us part of a music video which shows how Ethiopians celebrate easter, which on the Ethiopian calendar is next week. We bought some food, so that one day soon I can attempt to cook my own wat ... what is wat you ask? Wat is stew.
hope to have photos to add soon
Sunday, April 9, 2006
Thursday, April 6, 2006
Friday, March 31, 2006
Saturday, March 25, 2006
Lucy is doing better! Whew, what a week and a half we had. Poor Lucy had about 6 days of vomiting/diarreah/fever followed by two days of fever and discomfort. After three trips to the doctor complete with blood tests, urine tests, and a chest x-ray ... it was determined that she had a nasty virus followed by a double ear infection. Lucy handled it well but was sure sick of being sick and in pain by the end. She absolutely loves her antibiotics, she gets all excited when she sees the medicine dropper, the goofball! We celebrated wellness by taking a trip to the zoo this morning. We were doing a sort of experiment. See, we've been to the zoo twice before, and both times a dolphin died, now I am not saying that the dolphin world revolves around us but I was getting a little paranoid. So far today, I haven't heard of any dolphin deaths ...
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Well valued blog-readers I have to report that Lucy's been very ill since Wednesday night. She has some sort of gastro-intestinal virus that's really hurting her. She has been unable to hold food/formula down for any extended length of time. Lucy can't sleep for long and on top of being in pain is also very tired. OHH the poor baby, she was a real trouper the first few days but now, like her mother, has just bowed down to whining and crying a lot of the day. Hope to report a happy healthy Lucy very soon. Stacy
Sunday, March 12, 2006
What a wonderful mini-vacation! The weather was so perfect. Lucy was a stellar traveler, she slept better then ever and seemed to enjoy the constant attention. No housework, no phone calls, no errands just 100% togetherness. We went on two hikes. Friday we went on a short 1/2 mile hike, Lucy was in the backpack and fell asleep almost before we entered the woods. She slept for the entire walk, but I woke her up after the hike so she could see the woods. Lucy ate snow and seem perplexed. The second day we went on a 1 1/2 mile hike. Lucy stayed awake for about 10 minutes of the hike and was out like a log, she didn't even have her nuk! Lucy snored her way through the beautiful winter woods. Lucy and I went swimming twice, she LOVED it! I hope to post some swimming photos soon. I put her under the water and she came up giggling. As soon as we got into the pool her arms started flapping and her legs started kicking, she's a natural! I think she's tired from the vacation, as it's not quite 9am and she's an hour into her first nap already.
Wednesday, March 8, 2006
Tomorrow we leave for Lucy's first casino adventure. Oh how exciting, two nights away from the city, away from the computer, away from any cleaning or organizing. Hopefully the weather will be dry and we can walk around Mille Lacs Kathio state park a bit on Friday. Lucy has really been changing ... she's so strong. Lucy is a wiggle worm! She is eating a lot better, experimenting with more grown up food. Last Friday we went to an Ethiopian restaurant and Lucy ate a lot of one thing (don't know what it was) and quite a bit of injera (the bread). Leaving her all day to go to work is still depressing, but the good news is she is much more settled now, and able to stay awake and relatively happy until 8ish each night. I will try to blog more this weekend.
Monday, February 13, 2006
Well one way to really appreciate the weekends is to do something you dread M-F! I actually don't dread work, it's the leaving Lucy that I don't like. Friday morning Lucy had her 9 month well child check. She's doing great! Her lungs sound clear (finally). The dr wants her to stay on her meds throughout the cold and flu season. Lucy weighs 16#8oz, and is in the 20% for height, weight and head circum., she is steadily making gains on this percentile chart. The doctor is pleased with her development over the past three months. When the dr asked if Lucy was "talking" Lucy answered her with a "gaaaa ga ga maaaa ma" and then she snorted. It was pretty hilarious timing.
It looks like Lucy's top teeth are close to coming in (she is doing the teething a bit out of order).
This morning Lucy had a big smile and a wave for Auntie Barb, a very good sign.
Thursday, February 9, 2006
Wednesday, February 8, 2006
Well, we're on day three and while the days may be getting progressively easier for Lucy, I think they are progressively becoming more difficult and depressing for me. I hate being gone all day. Yesterday evening Lucy discovered the fine art of whining, which carried over to this morning. I do not enjoy this new side of Lucy and hope it's just a temporary part of the transition. Well, back to work for me ... so I can get home and kiss Lucy.
Tuesday, February 7, 2006
Well, it's official, the honeymoon is over. Oh woe is us. Yesterday was our first day as a working family. Lucy was dropped over at Auntie Barbs ... she woke up from her slumber in a strange house with no mama and she did not like it! Barb got her to take another short nap, but upon wake up from that, she still decided she didn't like the situation. Poor Lucy, poor Barb, poor momma. We were not a happy trio. Lucy spent the rest of the day at work with me, and was not her normal happy self. This morning she woke up happy again. Today is grandma day. Hope it goes better. Auntie Barb is such a sweetie! She offered to come over this week and maybe next week to provide child-care in my house so Lucy could have a more gentle transition. That's why soon, auntie Barb will be a favorite person in Lucy's life. In 6 minutes I will call to check on Lucita (I am making myself wait at least an hour), I know I am such a wimp!
Monday, January 30, 2006
Well, it's our last week of leave... I am looking forward to just getting on with it, and getting into a routine instead of just dreading it. Lucy is cooperating by sleeping well most nights. Lucy is starting to roll all over the place now ... she's not really crawling at all but is starting to enjoy the ability to get from one place to another by rolling. She is very good at manipulating the walker as well ... Sassy is not appreciating this new skill. Lucy loves taking showers with mommy, she giggles when the water hits her and is always leaning toward the water for more, she doesn't seem to mind the water getting all over her face. I am attaching another new photo ... she's so dang cute!
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Call me crazy, but I am convinced that Lucy says "kitty cat" whenever she sees one of the cats. I know it's true. Lucy is 8 months old now. I know that I have been neglectful of the blog but I have been busy playing with her. Now that I've shared the blog address with the ethiopia adopt group, I thought I had better update at least once! Next week is my last week of maternity leave. OH life is going to change when I go back to work. I am sure Lucy will do great with auntie barb and grandma ... it's me I am worried about! Well, Lucy is still a great joy. She's just so much fun, happy, content, funny and cuddly! She gives such intense, moist kisses. She can also hug. Lucy has a new "dolphin" laugh, so funny. We've been getting together with the Ethiopian Kids Community group pretty much every month since we've returned home, I think this group will become more and more important to her as she grows up, it's already important to me. Well ... I am going to try to add a photo and then sign off.